We all grew up listening to the Beatles and remember their song, “All You Need is Love”. Do we still believe it? Do we live it? Is it more important than ever? During midlife, it is essential that we come to terms with where we are. You cannot just blow off the universe – this is actually happening. And because it is happening, and it is very real, we need to accept it… accept ourselves and love ourselves. I call this “midlove”. Love yourself now, and especially now, because now is what we have. We are in the second half of our lives, so we need to make haste. We are not perfect, there is no such thing. We are human. Revel in that, and love yourself with all of your human traits and imperfections.
With everything going on in the world, and in our own personal lives, what does it really mean? How can we continue to make this our mantra in our day to day lives with the turmoil around us?
Now that it’s almost Valentine’s Day, let’s think about what that really means to us. Maybe it’s just another Hallmark day, invented by the retail machine. Or maybe you still enjoy the tradition of celebrating with your partner. Maybe you now focus more on sending cards or giving cute little gifts to your grandkids.
While all of the focus is on sharing your love with others and making them feel special, I want you to be extra kind to yourself and celebrate you! Especially for those of you who do not have a “significant other” now. Whether you are single, divorced, widowed, or are separated from your loved one by miles or otherwise, be sweet to yourself. Spoil yourself a little on Valentine’s Day. Buy yourself flowers and eat some chocolates. Or get together with some girlfrieds and do your own thing. Do whatever makes you feel good and feel gratitude for being alive and being able to still do this.
If you don’t currently have someone in your life that you are in a loving relationship with, and even if you do, take some time to acknowledge you for the person that you are, and all that you still have left to do in life. You are special. There is no other you. If all we need is love, shouldn’t it begin with self love and radiate outward?
So, let your love shine. “Love is all there is.”
Sending so much love your way,
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