You are amazing. You are beautiful! You really are. Stop, every day, for just a few seconds and remind yourself. Take a few more seconds for a couple of slow, deep breaths. Now take a few minutes to visualize who you want to be, how you want your life to be, and remind yourself that you deserve it. You’ve worked most of your life and it’s your turn.
Especially at this time of year, we tend to do too much and stress out. It is the hardest part of the year for some people. I got to the point where I hated the holidays. It was so stressful with all of the running around with parties and decorations and gifts. I finally resolved to scale it back and not try to be Miss Perfect Martha Stewart and SuperMom/SuperWife and give some things up. Now there is far more joy and far less stress.
If you find yourself mentally and physically overwrought and/or depressed, I urge you to take a look at your routine and see if you can make some changes, like adding self-care to your routine, or joining a retreat for women. Bring back the joy and real meaning of the holidays and give yourself a break. You are amazing and you don’t have to prove it to anyone.
At this stage in our lives, we have worked long and hard. Some of us have raised children, some of us are taking care of our parents, some of us have lost close loved ones, and are still grieving. We have all lived a long time, and still have more to come. Lots more! We still have a lot of sh*t to do!!! What are you waiting for? But go gently, step by step, until it feels natural. Remember to be patient with yourself along the way. Don’t be afraid to make mistakes. Who really cares? It’s all a learning process anyway, and no one is getting tested or graded. Believe in yourself.
Take a step back. Create a little space for visions to come. Ask yourself questions: When do you feel most like yourself? Who and what brings out the best in you? What is your life vision? We can all start over. At any time. There really are no rules and the only limits are the ones we put on ourselves. Remember no one is the boss of you except for you. The answers to these questions will not materialize immediately. So, be patient. It’s not a race. But look deep. And allow yourself to really think openly and big. What do you REALLY want?
As part of Curated Over 40, I am hosting a small, intimate and authentic retreat for women over 40 in Italy. “Soul Trips” will enrich your mind and soul. I call it a Soul Trip because it’s a retreat for women in Italy where your senses will be awakened and your soul will be enriched by this type of travel.
Follow the joy. Follow your heart. Listen … really listen. And for heaven’s sake, lighten up. This does not have to be so serious. Don’t be afraid of the visions and feelings that come up. And try not to dismiss things too quickly or easily. Write down your thoughts. Just go with it. Stay loose and let things flow.
Be kind to yourself. We are reminded to be kind to others, and hopefully, we are, but it’s even more important to be kind to ourselves. Be patient with yourself. Be gentle, encourage your heart and your brain to work together on this and keep at it.
The next time a negative thought about yourself creeps into your mind, it’s OK. Just let it go. And then replace it with two other kinder thoughts. The next time you find yourself being unkind or judgmental about someone else, do the same. It gets easier and easier. Promise.
And remember – You are truly amazing!
Big hugs to all,